01 — Shameless: “without shame”

In order to fully understand our radically intentional use of the word “shameless” we must first understand the meaning of “shame”

noun

Definition of shame

1a: a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety

b: the susceptibility to such emotion.

2: a condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute

3a: something that brings censure or reproach

also : something to be regretted

b: a cause of feeling shame

Many of us have lived much of our lives driven by many forms of guilt, fear and shame. This is because at some point we have ”bought into” these ideas that were directed or given to us by outside sources; not from within ourselves.

Shameless refers to the experience of not being driven by guilt, fear and shame.

Shame focuses on our past and ourselves. Shameless focuses outwardly to the future and the wellbeing of “ALL”, never forgetting that “I” am included in “ALL”

How does one go from Shame to Shamelessness? That is why I am here. To walk beside you. To embrace you. To support you as you re-discover your “light”, your “authenticity” and your “power”, for guilt, fear and shame are NOT the natural authentic state of humankind.

02 — Shameless Matters…

We look at and discuss topics without censure, guilt or fear of what someone might think. Shameless never automatically connotes disrespect. If a person is respectful by nature and deed then his shameless actions will also be respect-derived. Taboo and often triggering topics like race, religion, politics and sex, can be discussed shamelessly when respect, curiosity and “I dont have all the answers” are present.

Sex, Sexuality, Authentic Sexual Expression, Relationships, Gender and the Queer experience are core topics in my discussions because I’m just as curious about these as you are!

03 — Dont have all the answers

True conversation occurs when we’re aware we do not have all the answers. We focus on listening to whom we are speaking with. We consciously stop ourselves from thinking of the answer or reply when that person is speaking. Then and only then can we truly listen.

Asking questions keeps the dialogue open. growing and respectful. Be interested. Be engaged.

For every person in existence, there is a unique view or experience of everything based on our filter or “bias” as its called today. Bias is 100% learned. No one is free from bias. If we are having a human experience, we have bias.

It’s the questions in life that pull us forward and drive us to thrive … not the answers.

At Shameless Matters we listen to each other and see each others’ highest self ….or learn to do so!

04 — We Are In This Together

Every session, every presentation and every encounter is an opportunity for me to connect with you and grow with you as I share what I’ve gleaned from a lifetime of being a seeker.

I say “Tell me more” when I hear a point of view I don’t understand or disagree with.

No matter how strongly a view I have on a subject I always present the challenge “Prove me wrong.” When proven wrong I’m thrilled because that means you’ve done the work and you can back up your assertions. For that I give my highest praise!

“The day I stop learning is the day I die”

05 — Live Presentations. Life Coach. Workshops. Wellness Weekends. Oh my!

Whether you encounter me by my Life Coach sessions, a Demo, a Live Presentation or Sex Therapy, these and many more “Shameless Concepts” are are always in existence.